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stupid little facebook quirks

Reader F. F. writes:

Can you just tell people some basic Facebook etiquette to remind them what not to do?

Dear F.F.:

Okay, my passive aggressive friend! Nothing quite like using an advice columnist to get out the ideas you just don’t have the balls to tell people.

Beyond the usual “don’t ever post anything on the internet you don’t want to come back and bite you in the ass later”, here are a few quirks I’ve noticed on Facebook that people need to learn not to do:

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– Quit liking your own status. Unless you’re trying to be ironic or funny, if you are a page, group, person, business, whatever, when you post something and then “like” it, you look like a moron. It’s not going to ruin your career, probably, but people will probably think you’re stupid.

– Stop caring about and then correcting people’s spelling errors. Yes, it’s fun to correct the spelling of the idiot who just posted some flamingly stupid post, but their flaming stupidity speaks for itself. Everyone makes typos on quick media like Facebook or Twitter. It’s embarrassing enough. Let it go. When you accidentally post something about “erection” rather than “dereliction” because your phone auto corrected, people will be much less likely to repay your spelling Nazism with their own brand of it. Save your red pencil for stuff that really matters. Like your resume.

– When someone posts an intentionally flame-y political or religious post (and there’s no stopping that, or it’d be a bullet point here), quit pretending you can be the voice of reason in the debate. There isn’t one. Even if you’ve got statistics or proof, people who post strong things about “right” or “wrong” will not be swayed. Let it go. It’s only going to devolve into name-calling, anyway. (It always does.) Confirmation Bias works for everybody, so you’re just as likely to believe something irrationally as the next guy. People in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones, k.

– Always include a personal message with a friend request, especially if you’re sending this request to someone you’ve never met in real life or haven’t talked to in a long time. Don’t just assume they’ll know who you are or why you want to be friends.

– Remember that there’s no BCC on the Facebook messaging system yet, so if you email your entire list of friends, every time anyone replies, it’ll go to the entire group of friends. And it’ll get annoying. Use your actual email for giant mass messages if you can, and save the Facebook convos for more intimate times, or introducing friends who don’t yet know each other (which is my favorite thing to do ever).

– If you haven’t done it yet, go through your friend list and separate people into pertinent lists. This way, you can block certain people from seeing certain things (like status updates, pictures, etc) or send pertinent information to them and only them. It’s like Google+ Circles, only less … visual. Or something.

– Don’t indiscriminately invite everyone on your friend list to an event. Only invite the groups of friends that are pertinent to the event. Obviously, it’s not something that seriously takes away from your quality of life; but it’s annoying. Getting invited more than once to an event that isn’t in the town where you live makes you think the person has no idea who you are, which means, you get a defriending.

– It’s not other peoples’ jobs to know your privacy settings, so keep those up to date on your own. If someone tags you in a photo you don’t like, untag it, and/or ask them to remove it. Block apps that bother you rather than complaining about them. Leave groups if you’re getting too many messages, or, better yet, manage your messages and notifications. Facebook is highly customizable. If you are afraid Facebook is going to threaten your job/home life, and you can’t manage your own privacy settings, get off Facebook. It’s not a right. It’s a privilege.

UPDATE: – Quit posting the “scam” posts. If you must post them, at least look them up on or whatever first. Don’t just repost whatever someone else has posted thinking it’s been proven or is true. Do your research.

– Keep posting interesting links to articles or inspiring YouTube videos. Those are fun. I appreciate them. And if I don’t, I won’t click on the link.

Alright, advice blog friends, what are your pet peeves on Facebook?

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